Energetic Well Being shares an important article by Dr. Joseph Mercola that was originally printed on the Spirit of Change Magazine Website on November 14th, 2012. This article discusses how niacin imbalances may be related to disturbances in the human psyche. CLICK HERE to read the article.
This article is about more effectively communicating love and caring.
Most of us will be with family or friends for the holidays throughout the year. These happy times can be spoiled by our preconceived notions and past experiences of difficulties with loved ones we are not normally with.
One way of avoiding potential difficulties is by more effectively communicating our love and caring with family members and friends as described in the book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.
Gary states that we communicate love in five ways:
- Quality Time
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
There is the possibility of not communicating love effectively because our love languages are different. Suppose in a couple that person A feels loved when receiving Quality Time from person B. Person B feels loved when receiving Words of Affirmation or Gifts.
The challenge is that we communicate with others in the way we receive love. So person A gives Quality Time to B, and person B gives Words of Affirmation or Gifts to A. And each does not fully feel or appreciate what is being given!
A couple who have been together a long time each feel they completely love the other. On the other hand they don’t feel completely loved by the other. The reason is their love languages are not the same and they only communicate their love to the other through their own love language.
So how do you figure out how to communicate more in the ways that others feel love!
- Recall a few times when you have felt love coming from another and remember how they were communicating. Identify which of the five ways have most positive impact on you.
- Tell another person how you feel loved.
- Ask another person how they feel loved – tell them about the five ways of communicating love and ask which have the most impact on them.
- Communicate in ways that have most positive impact on the other person.
- If you want more guidance, read the book. Gary lists many ways to communicate each of the five languages. He also includes a self description section to help each person define their own more completely.
This works with children and friends, too!
Numerous experts, research studies, practitioners, and those selling products warn that we can be harmed daily by poor lifestyles; poor quality foods with low nutrient value and that contain antibiotics, growth hormones, harmful colorings, flavorings, and additives; detergents; makeup; plastic containers; electronic devices; dry cleaned clothes, insecticides and herbicides; 80,000 new chemicals being produced each year; first and second-hand cigarette smoke, petrochemicals and exhaust fumes, etc.
An online search of websites and articles reveals statements that “these cause cancer, asthma, allergies, skin rashes, chronic fatigue, multiple chemical sensitivities and other health problems.
“We are exposed to these things all day long, most of them without choice. We can do our best to try to avoid most of these things, but we actually can’t avoid them.“
In essence these are saying we all are going to get one or more of the above symptoms!
How are we reacting to these warnings?
We’ve learned and been taught in many ways to stay away from things that harm us: Our nervous system, survival instincts, “gut feelings”, beliefs and fears about safety, disease, infection, addiction, and prevention cause us to behave in certain ways (like washing our hands and avoiding harmful things).
For the most part we take the “bumps in life” in stride, make changes in our routines to deal with them, and live in a general state of wellness.
But what happens when our reactions to these warnings become over-reactions, and we:
- start being bothered and worried,
- develop phobias and obsessive-compulsive patterns, and
- increase our levels of anxiety, over-worrying, over-analyzing, over-internalizing, over-guarding, over-protecting, over-mothering and over-nurturing?
An unforseen consequence is that our conscious and unconscious reaction to these “over-protective” thought patterns is that we weaken energy flows in our body, mind and energy fields.
We are told we cannot avoid exposure, so we are doing what we can to protect others and ourselves. Most of us are not really aware of how much we weaken ourselves in the name of being safe and healthy. It seems we are caught in a cycle of weakening ourselves in order to protect ourselves.
Our energy also goes weak any time we are irritated, frustrated, reacting, creating drama, depressed, down, in pain, sad, angry, judging ourselves and others, feeling regret, fearful, etc.
What are the effects of weakening our energy?
Any single weakening thought does not have much of an effect on us. But how many of these thoughts do we have in a day? Four times an hour for our wakening hours is about 23,000 times a year. (Note how many times one of the above warnings or reactions come to mind in the first three hours after you wake up – 23,000 may be a low number.)
This can add up to our energy going weak to 80% of our lives, and strong to only 20%!
The repetitive weakening can cause energy blocks, which in turn can cause symptoms of discomfort and pain. These may be physical, mental, emotional, psychological, psychic or spiritual.
Let’s contrast this with when we are 5 years old. Various observers report that we laugh 300-500 times a day, and are experiencing joy, peace, acceptance, excitement, spontaneity, flexibility, acceptance, etc.! Our energy is going strong to 90% of our lives!
Many authors have traced the effects of the mind body connection both in negative and in positive ways.
According to an article by Devin Scannura titled “Can You Die of Cancer Just From Believing You Have It?”, on ezinearticles.com, a Nashville physician described a patient who came in with esophageal cancer. At the time of the event, in 1974, it was accepted by the medical profession that nobody survived this kind of cancer. The physician, Dr. Meador, told the patient and offered him a treatment. He took the treatment and a few weeks later he died. An autopsy revealed thaty there was no esophageal cancer left. The treatment had worked and there was no other cancer or disease in his body that would explain his death. The doctor said in essence that the patient died of esophegeal cancer but not from esophegeal cancer!
In the medical profession these are called nocebos – they can be deadly! They can have as much impact as placebos that can account for 33-66% of improvements in treatments of patients! Whether they are accurate or not, our belief that “we are at risk” is enough to “cause us to be at risk”!
Scannura writes, “Nocebo cases like this suggest that physicians, parents, teachers, and the environment can remove hope by programming you to believe you are powerless.”
Author Marilyn Ferguson said, “The deadliest self fulfilling prophecy in our culture is that we degenerate as we age”. I am 81 now and it amazes me that I have bought into aging and degeneration in so many ways! I remember being told in science class in High School that after age 20, all our vital bodily functions decrease in effectivenss by 10% every decade!
And of course this is reinforced by our observing friends and family degenerating and dying.
A participant at a workshop I was conducting asked “What’s the best way to die, heart attack or cancer? I know something is going to get me!” This is a prime example of buying into all the warnings, with a belief we are going to get a deadly degenerative disease, and the consequence is that we most likely will.
From an energy perspective we do not degenerate because another year goes by, we degenerate because we have not learned how to understand or deal with the root causes of our symptoms. By and large the experts don’t know, either.
So, what are we to do to effectively deal with all these warnings?
There are four suggestions.
First, get better educated.
The warnings are based on the beliefs that physical sysmptoms in our bodies have 100% physical root causes. In doing energy work to clear symptoms we find that, on the contrary, over 90% of the root causes for our symptoms are 90% non-physical!
And, that the root causes are life issues, not health issues. For example, about 12 years ago visiting one of our daughters, our 1 ½ year old grandson began having painful hives spreading from his mouth to his neck to his back. He would only eat milk products, cheese, yoguret, milk, ice cream. They were being told he would have milk and gluten allergies for the rest of his life.
I asked if I might work with him and our daughter said “it can’t hurt”! She was exhausted from not being able to find something else he was willing to eat. I worked with him about :25 and then asked her to feed him milk products, which she reluctantly did. He has not had a reaction ever again.
One cause for allergies is negative emotions and the family had been having difficulties at that time. He abosrbed them and reacted. It took :25 to help him energetically clear away the negative emotions and the reactions, and the symptoms went away!. I strengthened him to thrive on milk products and he continues to do so today.
Of course I apologized that it took so long to clear away the symptoms!
Four steps that can help deal with all the warnings in our lives follow.
First, gain a deeper understanding of how our life issues and feelings impact us. Three resources that describe non physical root causes for symptoms are:
- “Heal Your Body A-Z”, by Louise Hay
- “Feelings Buried Alive Never Die”, by Karol K. Truman
- “Healer Wisdom – Beliefs by Disease and Trauma”, by Valeria Moore, healerwisdom.com.
Second, develop a healthy skepticism. Don’t buy into all the warnings.
Realize that numerous people smoke and drink, or get exposed to many different risks, and still live long healthy lives.
In the book “In Defense of Food”, Michael Pollan writes “…American Nutritionists, can’t fathom how a people who enjoy their food as much as the French do, and blithely eat so many nutrients deemed toxic by nutritionists, could have substantially lower rates of heart disease than we do on our elaborately engineered low-fat diets.”
Third, get energetically strong everyday.
When we are strong there is nothing outside of us that is stronger than what is inside of us. Learn how to deal with/eliminate your symptoms. There are an increasing number of modalities that teach how to make symptoms go away. Find those that help you work on yourself as well as others, and that show demonstrable results (rather than having to have treatments for months or years).
Fourth, cultivate a life of joy, fun, positive thoughts and thankfulness.
Clinical research demonstrates that laughter stimulates our immune response and helps to keep us healthy.
Mahatma Gandhi said:
“Your beliefs become your thoughts;
Your thoughts become your words;
Your words become your actions;
Your actions become your habits;
Your habits become your values;
Your values become your destiny.”
I, and others, are finding increasingly simple and direct ways to eliminate root causes of symptoms! There are an increasing number of modalities and products that help people make significant improvements in their lives, and to regain their natural state of health wellness and vitality.
Cindy called to say, “While doing a self examination, I found a fast-growing, large marble size lump in my left breast. It is hard and about an inch in diameter. My doctor sent me to get a mammogram. Upon examining me the technician as well as the on site doctor made gestures and comments that scared me.”
I did energetic corrections with Cindy focused on eliminating the root causes of the lump. She was upset and scared. We worked twice before the mammogram and once afterward, for :30 to 1 hour each time.
As a result of the first two sessions the lump softened and was slightly reduced in size. I was puzzled that it was not going away, and started thinking about why the lump would be in the breast.
What do breasts represent? There is the obvious sexual over-emphasis on breasts and size by both men and women that is referred to later in the article (and could probably take several books).
Then I thought about both the physical nourishment function of breasts and the emotional mothering and nurturing they represent. Cindy had spoken about a son who has been in repeated and serious trouble.
I checked her energy for feelings of emotional over-mothering and over- nurturing. She was deeply feeling both. She also had feelings of over-guarding, over-protecting, over-analyzing, over-worrying and over-internalizing.
Very Pleasant Surprise
As soon as we made the energetic corrections to clear away these over-protective emotions, the lump immediately shrunk by 50%. There was no time delay – it just shrunk! We worked two more times and the lump was gone and did not return. That was 3 1/2 years ago.
In the normal course of working with clients a part of the energy work is to scan the client to see where their energy is weak and where it is strong. Cindy had weak energy flowing into her breasts. After the 5th session Cindy’s energy was once again flowing fully into her breasts.
All 5 sessions were on the phone. Part of the work is to sharpen skills in perceiving energy flows. I call it additional-sensory perception. All of us sense what’s going on with others and we do it in different ways. For example, you tend to notice a mood of a person when they walk into a room or you talk with them on the telephone.
What else was causing the lump?
There were four other primary areas of non-physical root causes:
- Health and wellness fears – of degeneration and dieing and leaving her family
- Resonating with negative beliefs about cancer and breast cancer – there are numerous levels of negative beliefs in our culture, including risk and survival rates, expert opinion, research, prescribed treatments and their side effects. Another area of belief is around having the gene that increases the risk of getting breast cancer. This did not apply to Cindy. These beliefs tend to support our dis-ease. What we pay attention to is what we create.
- Losing sense of joy and happiness – she had unconsciously been losing her sense of happiness for a couple of years. This weakened her sense of well being and immune response.
- “Lumps” in her thinking – such as: a) things cant’ change; b) no faith in things changing; c) fearful of taking next steps in life; d) putting everyone else first and not taking care of herself; e) being bothered by having small or large breasts. This did not apply to Cindy but has been present with other clients.
Physical causes accounted for only about 15% of the roots. She exercises regularly, eats well, and is in good shape.
The roots were energetically cleared away.
Would these same roots be causing lumps for other women?
Another part of the energy work is to prepare for doing the work, which includes being neutral and non-reactive to whatever is going on with a client, and to know nothing—do not assume you know what their symptoms are or what is causing them.
This experience with Cindy did get me to check clients whose energy to their breasts is weak for over-protective emotions. In checking over 40 clients there have been 2 or more of the emotions present.
It appears that these emotions create an energy blockage that reduces the normal positive energy flows to breasts.
This is not a report on a clinical study – rather it is an amazing illustration of what our thoughts can do to our energy and our body.
What does it mean to “energetically clear away” the roots of our symptoms?
Some basic premises of this energy work are that:
- Our natural state is health, wellness and vitality.
- We want to be in and stay in this state.
- We don’t consciously know why we get away from this state (other than the strong beliefs and experiences that we degenerate as we age). Anything that bothers us weakens our energy and thus can create energy blockages.
- There are root causes for our symptoms.
- Our symptoms are us communicating with ourselves that there are some energetic blockages we need to get rid of.
- We have not learned and the experts don’t know how to eliminate the roots that cause the blockages.
- The focus of most modalities is to alleviate, suppress, or “learn to live with” our symptoms.
- There are simple energetic corrections that can eliminate the roots.
- The complicated part is that we human beings have hundreds of causes for our symptoms.
- We (anyone) can learn to quickly eliminate the root causes, the symptoms go away, and we get back to our natural state.
A key point is that anyone can learn how to make themselves energetically healthy and strong, and support others in being strong, as well. And there are an increasing number of modalities and products that can help us create support for what we want in our lives.